The Cost of Resistance : The interior lives of Tamil activists in the wake of war. by ANUSHANI

The Cost of Resistance: The interior lives of Tamil activists in the wake of war.by ANUSHANI - "The author is an activist based in Jaffna, Sri Lanka, working with war-affected Tamil communities. This piece draws from conversations with families of the disappeared in the Northern and Eastern provinces of Sri Lanka who have for years been fighting for justice. It seeks to shed light on the inner tumult of those often celebrated as icons of resistance. The author is grateful for the men and women who shared their stories and their courage, and trusted her with their vulnerabilities." The videos are drawn from the Legacies of Conflict In South Asia Archive, a collaborative project between the University of California Berkeley and Stanford University Digital Libraries.

NOTE: The author is an activist based in Jaffna, Sri Lanka, working with war-affected Tamil communities. This piece draws from conversations with families of the disappeared in the Northern and Eastern provinces of Sri Lanka who have for years been fighting for justice. It seeks to shed light on the inner tumult of those often celebrated as icons of resistance. The author is grateful for the men and women who shared their stories and their courage, and trusted her with their vulnerabilities. 

 

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The mother holding her last piece of jewelry

wonders whether to sell it

for bus fare to the protests.

She’s torn by the choices:

raise her voice,

or sit idle.

She’d rather die than ask others for money

*

The little girl who cries at school each day

feels unloved at home

thinks her mother hates her

yearns for her affection

doesn’t understand how you can

love someone who’s no longer present

*

The husband who considers leaving

isn’t getting what he thinks he needs

the fire is out

the food isn’t good at home

is what we say when he strays.

He’s searching for shreds of joy

while his wife longs

for her daughter and brother to return

*

The young wife with a constant headache

wants to crack her own skull

and find a peaceful corner inside.

Though the days are long

working and raising her children alone

there’s no time for her needs

when there is time, her thoughts become too bleak 

*

Another young wife, strong and beautiful,

is told to stop searching for her husband:

marry another man and move on.

She refuses, sassing the military and men with bad intentions,

ignoring those calling her a loud-mouthed slut.

In the daytime, she wears a mask

when night falls, she wants to peel off her skin

*

The father who doesn’t work

disgraced that he’s unable earn to for the family

and alive while his son is disappeared.

Guilt eats him from the inside

he’d give his life to bring back his son.

He spends too much money on the fortune teller,

for the last five years she has predicted

his son would return in three months

*

The old amma who feels alone in the world

the children’s whereabouts unknown

husband splitting time between work and protests

the loneliness grows too loud to manage

she adopts and feeds stray dogs

hoping someone is doing the same for her children

*

Mothers and wives and fathers and sisters

thinning, aging, dying, raging

their skin too tanned, their eyes too glum

getting sicker each day, counting the days

They ignore the rising death toll.

Resistance always looks good from the outside

but at what cost.

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It keeps me awake at night.

 

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